My guest today is Anaïs Lucia, an ADHD actor, director, filmmaker, stand-up comedian, YouTuber, and host and producer of three podcasts!
We’re discussing how she got her start in the entertainment industry, how her ADHD traits affect her work and approach to what she does, and some of her unique tips for actually finishing some of the 10,000 different projects you have going right now.
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Transcript for ADHD in the Entertainment Industry with Anaïs Lucia
Introduction to Anaïs:
Danielle: Hi Anaïs, welcome to the Neurodiverging podcast. How are you doing?
Anaïs: I’m good, Danielle. Thank you so much for having me.
Danielle: I’m so glad to have you here. Thanks for being here. Would you be willing to tell us a little bit about yourself?
Anaïs: Yeah, my name is Anaïs, I’m originally from a really small border town. I am an actress, host, stand up comedian, YouTube content creator, and I do a bunch of other things, too. I have many hobbies and I have been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, depression. So lots of things. I’m looking forward to talking about ADHD with you.
A Passion for Film
Danielle: Thanks so much. Yeah, I was noticing what I was like looking you up, you have done so many things! Like you said, you’re an actress and a comedian and a host and you have three podcasts. I know you have a wide variety of things you’re doing. So how did you get into the entertainment industry originally and start doing all this cool stuff?
Anaïs: Well, I originally started when I was really little, like four. I knew I wanted to be in movies. That’s what I thought. I would watch movies. And I’m like, I want to do that. And it looks fun. I want to be a movie. That’s how I thought of it when I was a kid.
It felt weird because I grew up in a small town where there’s no entertainment industry. It’s a border town. I remember in preschool when we would play that game where you would pretend you were adults and one kid would be like, “I’m a police officer,” and one would be, “I’m a doctor,” and I’m like, “I’m an actor.” And the kids were like, “Well, that’s not really useful for society. We’re doing useful things. And you’re like, ‘I’ll be an actor.'”
So I was like, “Oh, this is weird.” No one else wants to do this. But, I knew I wanted to do it. And then in first grade they asked us, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” And I wrote, I want to be a movie star and a movie star and I want to make people laugh.
That’s the exact thing I wrote. And I kept it! I have it framed because I found it later when I was in college, and I thought it was really interesting because I was like, that’s still what I want to do. And I still like I like to make people laugh.
I thought it was really cool that at like six or seven I wrote that. I always wanted to do it, but because I was in a small town, my parents were didn’t have any connections or anything. And I thought, How am I going to get into this industry if I’m in the small town? I don’t have connections.
Around middle school, I started making my own movies. I was like, I’m going to give myself work because there’s no work here, so I’m going to give myself work. So I just started making my own movies. My first camera was like this really cheap black-and-white camera. It was called TYKO Video Cam. You had to have it hooked up to your VCR because it would record directly onto the VHS tape.
I started making my own movies. I had my siblings, my neighbors in it. Then I started getting into directing because I would direct them and everything. And I was like, “Oh, I like directing too.” (So yeah, I direct as well.) I just kept doing a lot of video projects in middle school and in high school.
I would find any opportunity I could to just make video projects and act and everything. In elementary school we did school plays and I always enjoyed them. Then, in high school I would ask the teacher when they would give us assignments, “Instead of writing it, can I do it in video form?” And they’re like, “Sure.”
Most of the time they told me Yes because I think it’s something different. I was the only one doing it that way and it was cool because I enjoyed it and I would always get an A because I would do a good job and they’re like, “You do this for a living!”
I’m like, “Thank you. I do want to do it for me.” I did my senior project, I did like a ten minute long video and I made it funny because I just I that’s just my natural inclination, making things fun.
Then I went to film school, I went to university, but then I didn’t like their film program. So I took a break, moved to San Diego because I’m from Arizona. So I moved to San Diego for a bit. Then I was like, OK, I’m going to finish film school. And then I went back and I got my associate’s degree in film.
After that I was like, well, I want to go to L.A. because that’s where you go for work. I got an internship. I got a paid internship for this company I really wanted to work for and it was great. I started getting into background acting and taking classes over there, hosting and acting classes. I just started filming, short films.
I like directing and acting, but sometimes I’m in the mood to direct, sometimes I’m in the mood to act, sometimes I’ll do both. Lately I’m leaning towards the acting. I want to act, I love acting, I want to just keep doing it more. And I did my first feature film. It came out last year. It’s been in a few film festivals. Well, quite a lot, actually.
Anaïs: Thank you. I felt vindicated. Because in my small town, for someone who had Hollywood dreams, people tell you it’s impossible or you’re never going to make it. People are not supportive. I probably wasn’t supportive. My town wasn’t supportive. I was all alone pretty much in this dream. So, it felt like vindication.
If you want to check [the movie] out, you can. But I’m just warning, it’s not for kids. I don’t really go around advertising because an adult film. Not for young kids.
Danielle: It has adult themes.
Anaïs: Yes. Adult themes. There we go. I have never done a commercial, so that’s something new I’m trying to book, is a commercial because I’ve done short films and things, but I’m setting my sights. I have a new goal this year. I want to try to book my first commercial.
Danielle: That’s is so cool! I love that you have this idea, when you were so young and you just carried it through, because I feel like that’s not a story that you hear a lot like that. You know, I think when I was six, I wanted to be like a baker or something, which is great. You know, I like cake, but to carry such a huge dream all the way through and work so hard towards it. That’s amazing.
Anaïs: Yeah, that’s what I like. I know people are different. I would meet people in college and they’re like, I still don’t know what I want to do. I’m like, I knew since I was like four. How do you not know? But people just have different paths. Like my younger sister, she was like that too. She would like to switch like, oh no, I want to do this and I want to do that. But now she got her degree. She’s more focused. But growing up, she would like switch a lot. Yeah. It just depends.
Danielle: I mean, we need all those kinds. But it it’s I think most of my family and me too, I paddle around, I try different things before I commit. It takes a lot of time for me to do that. It’s always so exciting to hear about people who’ve just known from the beginning and have just gone straight for it, it’s so inspiring and cool.
ADHD and Acting
Anaïs: But because of my ADHD, there are other things, a lot of other things I did, like branches on the side that I did. So I didn’t mention those because the story would be too long. My main goal is acting, but I feel like I’ve lived many lives just because I’ve had many different jobs, pretty much any job you can think of. I’ve had over thirty jobs. Like I said, I like hosting, I do stand up comedy as well, creating content for YouTube. Always creation I guess.
Danielle: I think the arts is so important and getting diverse voices in the arts is so important. I also think that ADHD, this is my opinion, you should tell me as a person with ADHD if this is correct or not, but I think that ADHD and that willingness to try new things and try new experiences and get that endorphin rush of trying new things could bring so much into any kind of creative project. Just because I get having those experience must help you to build characters, build experience and bring that to when you’re writing a script for YouTube or when you’re doing any kind of creative endeavor.
Anaïs: Yeah. Then it does help as an actor with all the different jobs I’ve had. It’s like, oh, have you ever worked at a retail store? I’m like, yes. Have you ever worked as a waitress? Yes. It helps me with acting too, because you have to have all these skills. So in a way, it’s like like acting shows we have a reason to have all these different hobbies. It’ll help us in the end with acting.
Danielle: Do you think that overall, ADHD helps you out with all of your jobs more than hurts you? I know that’s a weird question because it’s part of you, but do you find that your ADHD, ADHD traits tend to support you and what you’re trying to do? Or do they get in the way more? Or both?
Danielle: Do you think that overall, ADHD helps you out with all of your jobs more than hurts you? I know that’s a weird question because it’s part of you, but do you find that your ADHD traits tend to support you and what you’re trying to do? Or do they get in the way more? Or both?
Anaïs: Okay, so, I think in the creativity aspect, I think it definitely, it helps. But, when it comes to actually completing things and getting things done it gets in the way (laughs). So, that’s kind of for me one of the hardest things to just kind of come to terms with because that’s one of the reasons I have gotten depressed is because —
For those listening I’m 35 (laughs), so, ideally I would have wanted to be further along in my career, and I know a lot of people once they get up there they kind of have that regret of like, “Oh, I wish I would have been —,” but it’s like we can’t really — That’s reality, but it is hard for me to deal with sometimes, and I know it’s because the ADHD didn’t help.
Anaïs: Just because I’m very good at starting things, but completing them has been very hard, so I feel if I would have been more educated about ADHD, if I would have gotten diagnosed younger, if I would have just been more knowledgeable and I just developed strategies, I probably would have been further along. But I’ve learned a lot of these things just only recently in my 30s. So, I mean it’s better to learn them now than never, but I do think, like, “Ugh, if only I would have known this 10 years ago, it would have helped me so much,” to just manage things better and kind of to be able to just complete things, so that’s been the hardest thing for me.
So, yeah, with creativity I think it’s awesome (laughs).
Danielle: Yeah (laughs).
Danielle: That’s why I’m happy, I’m happy when it comes to being creative, I have no problem being creative. I’m like, “ADHD is awesome! I love it!” But then when it comes to getting things done, I’m like, “Aw, I hate it,” (laughs), “I hate it.”
Self Diagnosis To Full Diagnosis
Danielle: (laughs) Yeah. I’m autistic and I was also diagnosed as an adult, and I have some of the same feelings like, I got where I am and I’m really proud of that, but gosh if I had understood (laughs) the autistic traits and what they were and what they meant a little earlier in my life? That would have been really — I’m also 35, it would have been really helpful. Like, just to get through 30 years or so without having any idea of why things didn’t work the way I wanted them to go, sometimes, and, yeah, it can be really hard. And you said you self-diagnosed as ADHD before you got an official diagnosis, is that right?
Anaïs: Mhm. Well, I mean I didn’t feel right just telling people, “I have ADHD,” without being diagnosed officially, so I just had that suspicion. Like, I would read about it and I was like, “Hmm.” And then I just kind of read more about it, and especially symptoms in girls, women, and then I was like, “Wow, I can relate a lot to this. It’s like describing me as a kid, describing me now.” Describing my whole life (laughs) basically. I was like I think I do have it (laughs). And then I got diagnosed as part of as study.
Danielle: Oh, cool!
Anaïs: And they actually gave me — They did tests on me with the brain thing, and they gave me an actual thing saying my diagnosis, but of course, not surprising, I lost it. Just feel like I lose a lot of things, so. I don’t know, maybe I have it somewhere I just don’t know where (laughs). But I remember when I found out I cried. I didn’t cry at that moment, but when I got home I cried. And I was like, “Why am I crying?” I think just because I felt like, oh my gosh, a lot of the things that I felt bad about that I was doing it just makes sense now why I did it.
It doesn’t mean I’m lazy or just not motivated enough or too — I don’t know, because people would make me feel bad about things sometimes, like, “Oh, you can’t stay at a job for so long,” or, “You’re too scatterbrained,” things like that, and now I just felt like, yeah, kind of like seen. I have an explanation for why I did these things and I just wished, yeah, I would have known sooner, but I definitely, yeah, I cried I had a little purging of emotions.
Danielle: The external validation can be so validating, just because — I just said validation twice, but it is that feeling that you, as a kind of adjacent experience of being autistic, is you feel judged all the time for stuff that you feel like you’re trying really hard, and people just don’t believe that you’re trying. “You just have to try harder!” And then when you get that external, “Somebody else sees it, somebody else knows it,” it can be — I can understand the catharsis.
Anaïs: It’s like, “Oh, you just need to focus,” and things like that. It’s like it’s not easy! I’m not like you! (laughs) So, yeah.
Danielle: I was going to see if we could talk about how you sort of manage your ADHD traits, because like we said before, you have so many things happening, you’re doing so much, and I have enough trouble just managing this one podcast, and you have just so many cool things going on! Do you have specific ways of keeping tabs on so many things? Or tips for others who are organizing a lot or trying to keep up with a lot?
Anaïs: Yeah, I do — These are just things that work for me, so people who like are really organized probably are really going to hate this (laughs) —
Danielle: Most of them are not listening to this podcast —
Anaïs: Oh, okay, that’s true!
Danielle: …would be my suspicion (laughs).
Anaïs: So, first of all, I’m a visual person, I have to see things. Like, if I have to do something, I have to put up a visual, like a sticky note or something, because I will forget. Like, writing it down in the calendar on my phone does nothing for me. I have to see it, so I have a lot of things on my walls. It’s just covered with lists of things I need to do, my goals, and even on the bathroom mirror. So everything I have to see in terms of calendars, like planners, I don’t have like a regular — I tried with the regular planners, it just didn’t work for me, I just didn’t open it. I would write it and then — because I would just put it away, I have to have it up, so I started drawing out my own calendar.
It’s kind of hard to talk about it on an audio podcast, but, yeah, I would just draw it out and have things really big and blocks, so that way I could just see it. And I would always have it out, like sprawled out on my desk, and I know some people would be like, “Put it away!” And I’m like, “I’m gonna forget! It has to be out all the time!” So I literally have my calendar open all the time, just there so I can look at it.
So, yeah, I can’t put a lot of things away (laughs), because when it comes to things I need to do because I will forget, so that’s one thing. And then in terms of my podcast because, yeah, I have different podcasts, and then I have YouTube channels for all of them too. So it’s just a lot, managing the episodes (stammers), yeah, videos and audio, so I have a paper and I have columns, so one column for each podcast, and then I write down there with a marker.
I have colors, too, I need colors. It has to be interesting or else it’s not going to catch my attention, so I have colors on there and then, like, just the order of what needs to go up there, what videos, and things like that. Because I come up with a lot of ideas really fast and I have to write them down or else I’m going to forget, so I’m like, “Oh my gosh, I need to write it down so I can see it,” so that’s one thing I do.
And then in terms of, like, this, I learned it just maybe a few months ago, and I wish I would have known this since childhood, it would have been super helpful. Well, I mean, I didn’t know I had ADHD when I was a kid, but, okay, so, instead of — Because you know we procrastinate a lot, I tend to do things at the last minute. I still get them done, but it’s always last minute (laughs), and I hated in growing up when they would give us a month for an assignment because I’m like, “Yeah, I’m not going to do it,” (laughs) —
Danielle: I was always up until 3 AM the night before —
Anaïs: …until the night before!
Anaïs: Yeah, 3 AM be all sleep deprived but turn it in and I’d get an A. I don’t know how I do it but I just did. So instead of, like — Because now I do all these episodes and videos and things like that, so instead of, like, planning too far ahead I try to schedule it a little bit closer. Because somebody was like, they told me, “If you know you procrastinate just plan your procrastination,” in a way.
Like if you want a podcast out on Saturday, instead of trying to do it like a month before and then you’re going to procrastinate anyway, just schedule it for the day or two before, and that way instead of stressing out about it like for a month or weeks or whatever, you can do your other stuff there. So now I kind of do that, I do a lot of things (laughs) like last minute.
Like right now I’m barely catching up on some old podcast episodes. I felt bad because I had interviewed these people for my podcast and they’re like, “So when’s that going to be up?” It’s like three months later (laughs) like, “Sorry! It’s gonna be up soon!” So I have one more podcast, one more old interview, that’s my last one, and I’m just going to feel so proud of myself, like, finally all my old ones are going to be up (laughs).
But after that, now, I don’t schedule anyone until I know I’m caught up on my other ones, so that’s the other thing, too. Because I come up with ideas really fast and, like, when I come up with something I want to do it right away, but then I’m like, “No! Calm down.” And then that’s why I get so bogged down with things because I’ll just do it, and then I’m like, oh shoot, I have to edit a bunch of things and stuff like that, I have to complete them. So now, I kind of see a new project as a reward.
So I tell myself, like if I’m working on something and I’m like, “Oh, I want to do this thing now, this new idea,” and I tell myself, “Okay, you can’t do the new idea until you finish this one,” so I kind of see the new one as my reward, so that has helped me.
Danielle: That is such a good idea! And I haven’t heard anyone ever say — It’s like a unique idea, but I can see how it’d work. That’s really cool!
Anaïs: Yeah. But I always write it down because I’m like I’m going to forget —
Anaïs: (laughs) So write it down and then finish what you’re doing, and then you can see your new project as your new reward. And then I take a lot of breaks, like, I think the max I can work straight is maybe 15, 20 minutes (laughs). Because then I’m like, “Okay, I’m getting bored.” So I’ll give myself breaks, but fun breaks, so I’ll maybe dance, I love dancing, so I’ll play a fun song on Spotify and have a little dance party, or maybe I’ll just walk my dog, or sing, I like doing karaoke so I might sing a few songs (laughs). Just because I need that break and it kind of gets me refreshed to go back to work.
Because if I just keep forcing myself, because that’s what everyone else does, and that’s what makes a good worker or whatever, or a good person. That’s kind of what most people think, like you have to just push through, and it’s like, “No!” Like my brain is fried, I’m sorry (laughs). I need a little break, and then I’ll feel refreshed to come back. So, you just have to know how you work and what works for you and do that, because some other people might think that’s crazy and they can focus for a longer time, but, yeah.
I don’t like that they make us kind of, especially with work and stuff — I’ve done cubicle jobs and I couldn’t do it. It’s like I need to move around, I need to get up and just take breaks, and it makes me want to cry when they’re like, “Just stay there and work,” like for an hour straight. (laughs) I can’t. So those are a couple of tips, hopefully, those help.
Danielle: I think those are really helpful! Like you said, everybody’s different and it’s so hard to figure out what works for you if you don’t even know what to try, because the traditional advice like you said, it doesn’t usually work for us. So having somebody who’s — I know you haven’t got it all together, but somebody with systems that mostly work, I think it really helps people to hear.
So, especially parents who are trying to figure out stuff for their kids. Like, if they’re neurotypical and they just — Like the traditional advice works for them, then they might not know what to suggest. Anyway, it just really helps parents to hear from an adult ADHDer what might work for their kid so that they know what to try. So, it’s really helpful.
Anaïs: Yeah, so encourage — If your kid wants to take a break, please let them take a break. It’s going to help them. Don’t force them. Like, for me, I wanted to cry. I didn’t throw tantrums, my tantrum was just crying quietly, but I still cried, so just don’t feel bad if your kid wants to take a break. Maybe that’s how they learn better.
Being An Introvert With ADHD
Danielle: Yeah. We’re big, big break fans in my house, for sure (laughs).
And then to switch gears a little bit, I was listening to your YouTube channel, and I’m sorry I can’t remember which YouTube channel now, but you had several videos and a lot of content on how you identify as an introvert, and how introverts are different than extroverts and how they need different things, and I thought that was really interesting because even though obviously ADHD people span all different types, I think there’s this stereotype that if you’re ADHD you’re loud, and you’re excited, and you’re bouncing off the walls! And you can be an introvert and do that too, but I think that people might come across that and feel like it’s —
Danielle: …they don’t go together well. Oil and water I guess is what I’m going at. And so I just thought it was really cool how outspoken you are about that, and I was wondering if you bump into people — You’re in the entertainment industry, you probably work with a lot of extroverts would be my guess — I don’t know if that’s true, you should tell me. Are people surprised to hear oh here’s an ADHDer who’s also pretty introverted and needs that downtime and that space? Like, what’s the reaction to that?
Anaïs: Yeah. The reaction is more from people who aren’t in the industry. First of all, they think if you’re an introvert you can’t be on camera, and introverts can be shy but it’s not the same thing. There are introverts who aren’t shy, who’ve worked through their shyness, so it’s not — Introvert does not equal shy, (stammers). Also, it’s something you work on. Like before, I wanted to act, but I still was very nervous on camera my first times, I would get so red —
Danielle: (laughs softly) Aw.
Anaïs: …and I had to work through it! So I tell people I have a whole video on my channel talking about just my whole journey on shyness and things like that.
I’m still a shy person, I still consider myself shy, but I’m definitely improved, because when I was younger I was pretty much a mute. Like, I rarely talked, I would speak only when spoken to really, and only to my close friends that I was comfortable with, and when I spoke I spoke really, like, low, I’d be like (whispers), like almost whispering. I was really just quiet, and my report cards in elementary school, they all said the same thing, like, “Really smart, but quiet!” “Really smart, but quiet!” (laughs) So, I’m like, “Well at least I’m smart, so that’s good!” (laughs)
Anaïs: Yeah, and then, okay, so I just want to share this quote from this article just for those who don’t know that much about women and ADHD, but Sari Solden she’s a therapist and author of “Women and Attention Deficit Disorder”. She said, “Women with the disorder tend to be less hyperactive and impulsive, more disorganized,” yes, that’s me, “scattered,” yes, “forgetful, and introverted”!
Anaïs: “They’ve alternately been anxious or depressed for years,” that’s true for me as well. So there you go, there you go. Oh, it’s actually from Dr. Ellen Littman! Sorry, I quoted the wrong person, but she’s the author of “Understanding Girls with ADHD,” so, that’s one difference, and she also talked about this example which I thought was really interesting about like, so, let’s say a boy and a girl they get an assignment and they have to turn it in. They procrastinate, but the boys will usually, they might just like watch SpongeBob, play video games, or something, but the girl instead — and I did this all the time — she freaks out and tries to make the perfect project overnight, and she also said that perfectionism is another common behavior in ADHD girls, and that’s something I’ve definitely struggled with, too.
And then the girl will stay up until 1 AM to finish the homework, and then she hands in the assignment the next day but the teacher has no clue that it was done at the last minute. So, people are surprised too because they’re like, “Oh, but you always turned in things on time,” or, “And you got good grades,” and because I guess they think like if you have ADHD you don’t do the —
Okay, like my brother he was diagnosed with ADHD but he was diagnosed younger because he was a more typical loud, like, running around and things like that, so he was diagnosed when he was younger, but he was, like, not good at school. He was smart, but he wouldn’t do the homework, so that was the difference, and he’s definitely more extroverted than me.
But, yeah, it’s more just people who aren’t in the entertainment industry who are like, “Oh, you can’t be introverted, how can you be on camera?” And I’m just like, “You know how many introverts are in the entertainment industry?” Johnny Depp is an introvert, Heath Ledger was an introvert (laughs), Michael Jackson was an introvert, we just turn it on. We’re performers.
But the difference, I kind of talk about this in one of my standup jokes, the difference is like after — Say we’re doing standup comedy, the extroverted comedians after the show they’re going to be talking to everyone like, “Yeah, what’s up? Give me compliments,” blah, blah, blah (laughs).
Danielle: (laughs softly)
Anaïs: But the introverted comedians after the show are like, we’re probably just going to leave (laughs). We’re done, we used up all our energy —
Anaïs: …we don’t really want to stick around and talk to everyone, so that’s a difference. And I’m actually — I have some introvert comedian friends, so I’m planning an introvert comedy show on Zoom that I’m going to post on my YouTube channel, but that’s like once I reach a certain milestone, I’m going to do an introvert comedy show, so all the comedians on the lineup are going to be introverts so keep a lookout for that. Subscribe (laughs).
Danielle: Awesome (laughs). I’ll make sure there’s a link underneath — In the show notes! I couldn’t remember the word, so check out that link if you’re interested, and you should!
Anaïs: So, introverts can be performers and they can be funny. That’s because people sometimes think that you have to be an extrovert to be funny, sometimes —
Danielle: I don’t think so!
Anaïs: (speech overlaps) …introverts can be funnier! Okay? Because sometimes we’ll just come out of nowhere, like we’ll be quiet and a sudden we’ll say one thing and people laugh, they’re like, “What?” Because it’ll be kind of random (laughs), because they’re like, “You’re so quiet, and all of a sudden you said one thing,” so I kind of like that it’s kind of unexpected.
Danielle: Because introverts can pay attention, so we notice things! So —
Anaïs: Mhm, yup.
Where To Find Anaïs Lucia
Danielle: …yeah. Awesome, thank you! So where can listeners find you if they want to learn more? Because you have so many things. What are your primary places to be found (laughs)?
Anaïs: Yes, so social media, Instagram, my main one is girlandhershibadog so that’s my main one with my doggie if you want to see my son, he’s so cute!
Danielle: Super cute!op
Anaïs: (laughs) And then if you want to check out my funny comedy introvert content that’s anaïsluciacomedy, so those are my two main Instagrams. And then the podcasts we have Musecast, that’s about my favorite band Muse so if you love Muse from the UK check out Musecast on YouTube and Spotify, anywhere you can find the podcasts.
And then my — If you’re into relationships and if you want to learn how to be in a relationship, how do you stay in a relationship for a long time, because that’s something I’ve struggled with, it’s like, “How do you not get bored with someone?” Like, I hate boredom (laughs) so that’s one of my questions, how do you not get bored with someone and want to be with them forever?
So I interview couples who have been together for quite a bit, and it’s so inspiring and I love talking to them, I learn from each couple, so if you want to be inspired and see beautiful couples who are in love check out How To Relationship Podcast, you can search for it on YouTube, Spotify, other ones, Google Podcasts. How To Relationship Podcast — I think if you just search my name, because my name’s in all of them, so if you search Anaïs Lucia my podcast will come up.
And then my other podcast is called Quarantine Happy Hour, and that’s a more random podcast. I need one that’s not all structured and, you know, (laughs) so this one is more just like I just have different guests on and we just talk about different topics, you know? So, yeah, you’ll never know what we’re going to talk about, and I usually have a drink, it’s called Quarantine Happy Hour. That’s kind of where I let things go a little bit, like, I’m stressed, I need a drink (laughs) so there.
Danielle: That’s the one I’ve listened the most to, and it was really fun, and then your comedy YouTube channel, that’s where I spent most of my time when I was preparing, and I watched your YouTube with the, like — You’ve got all the sketches with of your soulmate and you were comparing them, I think that might be one of your most popular videos, but it was, it, like, had me cracking up, so you guys should check is out, it’s really good.
Anaïs: (speech overlaps) … did you see the Bachelor/Bachelorette (speech overlaps) —
Danielle: Yes! (laughs) I think I watched like three or four, and I watched the Master Wu one, and I then watched the follow-up that was like four more soulmate sketches, and she critiques them, and she (laughs) did a little Bachelorette, like, which one will win?
Anaïs: I had to eliminate them (laughs).
Danielle: It was so, it was so funny (laughs).
Anaïs: Thank you!
Danielle: Oh, yeah! (laughs) No, thank you for putting it out. I like — I don’t know, I think we all need comedy, now (laughs). The arts is what we need as a society in so many ways, so.
Anaïs: It’s such a compliment when people say that I’m funny because not only do I want to be funny, but also because I’m a woman and you know how they say women can’t be funny?
Danielle: It’s a lie!
Danielle: Straight lie (laughs).
Anaïs: It’s one of the best compliments when people are like, “Oh, this made me laugh, this is so funny,” I’m like, “Thank you, thank you,” so.
Danielle: (laughs) You’re welcome. It’s true! I really enjoyed it. I subscribed! You guys should, too!
Anaïs: Aw, thank you.
Danielle: Alright, well thank you so much for being with us! I really appreciate your time! I think people will find this really valuable, so.
Anaïs: Thank you so much for having me. It was great talking about ADHD. We need to kind of educate people a little bit more and —
Anaïs: …hopefully, any woman, or just anyone in general who thinks they have it, hopefully, can go get diagnosed with whatever you think you might have, you know? I feel like we deserve that validation, so, yeah, thank you so much.
Danielle: I had such a good time talking to Anaïs and I’m so glad she agreed to be on the podcast, I think she had some really insightful things to say. I hope you all enjoyed it, too! If you are interested, please hit the subscribe button and email me with what you think at firstname.lastname@example.org. Also, please, please, please, please, please go check out Anaïs’s social media sites, her stuff is great. She is on Youtube, she has two Instagram accounts, a comedy one and a main Instagram, a TikTok, and three different podcasts. All of her links are in the show notes right below, so please go check her out right now.
I also just want to give a very big thank you to my patrons Zach, David, Teresa, Sara, anon, and autstronaut! Thank you so much for supporting this episode of Neurodiverging. If you are not a patron yet you still have time, check out the perks and the options available to you at patreon.com/neurodiverging.
Thank you so much for being here with us today, thank you to Anaïs for her time, and please remember, we are all in this together.